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Types Of Domestic Violence
Abusers will display similar behaviours these tend to escalate in frequency and severity over time. The following are some of the tactics used by perpetrators
- Pushing, pinching, squeezing, kicking, slapping, choking, punching, cutting, tripping, burning, and pulling hair.
- Holding you down
- Punching the wall or kicking the doors
- Threatening you with a weapon.
- Throwing objects at you.
- Refusing to help you when you are sick, injured or pregnant.
- Blaming or accusing you.
- Shouting at you.
- Saying hurtful things to upset you.
- Forcing you to listen.
- Manipulating you with lies.
- Abusing pets or children.
- Destroying important belongings.
- Giving you the “silent treatment”.
- Isolating you from the outside world.
- When you try to explain, or give your side during an argument, your partner may shout, “don’t talk back to me”. It feels as though he/she is the boss.
- Driving dangerously or aggressively to intimidate or frighten you.
- Sexual name-calling.
- Forcing you to dress or perform in a sexual way that you find unpleasant.
- Forcing pregnancy.
- Being exposed to pornographic material against your will.
- Rape or sexual assault.
- People who behave like this are called abusers.
The Cycle Of Abuse
The Tension Building Phase is characterised by
- Walking on eggshells
- Criticism and Sarcasm
- Name calling
- “I am trying to do everything right but my partner keeps getting mad at me.”
Abusive Incident Phase is characterised by
- The big fight
- The explosion
- The break-up
- The violence
- “My partner’s totally crazy he has just exploded”
Conflict Resolution Phase is characterised by
- Apology and explanations
- Shared feelings
- Excuses and denial, minimising what happened
- Spelling out the rules
- Forcing the victim to admit that she or he was partially to blame
- My partner was under a lot of stress and it didn't help that I was talking to someone else.
- He/She is just a little insecure. We worked it all out.
Honeymoon Phase is characterised by
- Falling in love again
- Us against the world
- Getting back together
- “We were meant for each other. My partner loves me very much.”