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Domestic Violence >   Profile of an Abuser

Profile of an Abuser

  • Low self-esteem but may appear very confident.
  • Trouble trusting others, particularly you.
  • Jealous and possessive.
  • Controlling.
  • May come from a family where there was violence, but sometimes denies this.
  • Mood swings or explosive temper.
  • Aggressive, dangerous driving.
  • Isolates their victim.
  • Emotionally and verbally abusive.
  • Uses denial.
  • Tends to blame others.
  • In a fight, they will blame outside stressors, The Boss, Unemployment, Childhood, Alcohol etc
  • Possible alcohol or drug user.
  • Playful wrestling or teasing that hurts or is not funny.
  • General negative and aggressive attitude.
  • Risk Assessment
  • It is important to identify the level of risk you may be exposed to in a relationship with the emphasis on identification before violence occurs.
  • Has your partner become so jealous that you could describe him or her as paranoid?
  • Do you often find yourself trying to convince them that you did nothing wrong?
  • Have they ever kept you somewhere against your will (car or house)?
  • Have they ever repeatedly commanded you to “tell the truth” even when you were not lying?
  • Do they say they will die if you leave them or cannot live without you?
  • Have they ever talked about killing themselves?
  • Have they ever threatened to kill you?
  • Have they forced you to have sex when you (did not want to)
  • Do you have to justify your actions, activities, and time with your friends?
  • Do you want to break up sometimes but feel afraid of what this person might do?

If any of these remind you of yourself and your partner ring the refuge 041-9844550